Violet Rollergirl’s Booking Guide

One of my favorite things about being a trans provider is sharing in moments of discovery with you, and relishing the joy, relief, and possibilities that come with it.

To experience that, of course, you must first book me:

Book Me

Sadly, many who try fumble their chance. Following the instructions in this guide makes sure a fumble won’t be how our story ends.

About this guide

The booking process can feel daunting, especially if you’re “new to all this,” but it really just boils down to being communicative. The more information you give me about your situation, the more likely I’ll be able to align the stars for us.

I wrote this page to help those of you who want a meticulously crafted step-by-step guide to walk through booking time with me. It explains how you can best get my attention. Its extraordinary detail may be overkill for many of you, but it provides a thorough reference regardless.

The point is not to ensure instant perfection, but rather to give you clarity during the booking process should you seek it. While this guide is specific to booking me, you’ll probably find it useful for booking any companion, as most of this is a well-established standard across the industry.

Table of contents

1. Who should read this page
   1. For general booking guides and etiquette
2. Start here: once you know you want to meet me
   1. Use the form, Luke
3. Booking via Rose, my personal assistant
4. Fill in my mad-lib style booking form
   1. Booking form field: your name
   2. Booking form field: screening method
   3. Booking form field: phone number
   4. Booking form field: preferred contact method
   5. Booking form field: source referral
   6. Booking form field: free-form notes
   7. Booking form field: booking type
   8. Booking form field: service type
   9. Booking form field: duration
   10. Booking form field: location
   11. Booking form field: preferred date and time
   12. Booking form field: alternate date and time
   13. Booking form field: deposit method
   14. Booking form field: confirm policy agreement
   15. Booking form field: confirm screening attachment
5. Submit my booking form to send your inquiry
   1. Review and confirm your inquiry is as you desire
   2. Attach your screening information to the templated message
   3. Send your inquiry via your chosen app
6. Patiently wait for my reply
   1. If you don’t receive a reply
7. Confirm date details by sending a deposit
   1. About extensive or synchronous correspondence
8. Enjoy the building anticipation of our upcoming date
   1. The day before our date
   2. If you need to reschedule or cancel
9. Show up

Who should read this page

This page is for:

• clients who already know they want to meet or speak with me privately.
• clients looking for absolute clarity on how to book me.

If you’re not yet sure whether I’m the girl for you, then you might want to have a look at the rest of my site before returning here:

• My gallery shows you what I look like. Yes, I really do look like that.
• My “tech specs” describe my vitals and my vibe.
• My FAQ has the answers to numerous questions about me and my offerings.
• My reviews and testimonials offer a peek at what time with me is like through others’ eyes.
• My rates page provides a breakdown of considerations for my offerings.
• My tours page gives you details about where I’m traveling and when I’m available.
• My social media posts, softcore, and hardcore content give you the opportunity to see plenty more, and with some real-world texture.

And if you’re still not sure?

You can schedule a brief curiosity call with me, the cost of which can be directly applied to your deposit if you choose to book.

For that, however, you’ll need to schedule some time with me. And this page can help you with that!

For general booking guides and etiquette

If you’re looking for information on how to research escorts generally, need etiquette advice, want help assessing legitimacy, or advice for avoiding scams, I recommend reading the following blog posts on the Tryst Blog and elsewhere:

• A First-time Client’s Guide to Escort Booking Etiquette
• “How do I find a call girl near me?”
• ‘What if it’s a scam?’ How to have a successful date with a pro, by doing your homework.
• A Client’s Guide to Navigating Sex Industry Scams

I also suggest spending a bit of time perusing the Good Client Guide and the Satisfaction Project, two client education websites that have compiled much of the same information.

Start here: once you know you want to meet me

Everyone I meet begins at my booking form. It offers some rather novel privacy-preserving features that you may find valuable if you need extra levels of discretion.

Please use it. There is no way to meet me without providing the information that my booking form prompts you for. No matter how you found me, if you try to get my attention in any way in order to spend time with you privately, but you didn’t use my booking form to do it, I’m going to ask you to fill in my booking form before we proceed.

Use the form, Luke

My booking form makes booking easier and faster for both of us. To be clear, you must use it to successfully reserve my time.

How my booking form helps you book

Slower, gives me a headache	Faster, makes you sexier
This guy is 1000% slower and gave me a headache, compared to…	…this guy, who did less work and ended up seeming sexier.

As shown above, using my booking form is doubly necessary for realizing short-notice requests. It’s a bare minimum show of good faith to demonstrate that you’re as serious about meeting me as making the form in the first place shows my excitement to meet you.

Booking via Rose, my personal assistant

Rose is my personal assistant. She’s an Artificial Intelligence (AI) trained specifically on my business and my meticulously crafted website.

Her job is to make it easy for you to find available appointment times in my (otherwise very busy) calendar and to give you fast answers to any questions you may have.

You can book me with Rose’s help via:

• Web chat (requires valid email)
• Email
• Telegram chat
• WhatsApp
• Text/SMS messages (coming soon)

Currently, Rose is in a trial phase. If you like booking with her, please let me know. If you run into problems, please tell me about them.

You can always reach out to me directly if you fill in my mad-lib style booking form, which sends messages directly to me, not to Rose.

Fill in my mad-lib style booking form

In case it wasn’t obvious yet, you have to fill in my booking form in order to spend time with me. :)

Open Booking Form

My booking form is styled as a mad lib game that you fill out.

Remember mad libs? They are those fun little story templates that have blank spots asking you to choose parts of speech like adjectives or verbs. By the end, you create a cute story or poem or something. My booking form works the same way.

In place of a string of underscores, there’s a form field. Each field has a bit of placeholder text that explains what’s expected there.

When you fill in the field, it turns from red to neutral-toned, indicating that you’ve entered acceptable information. Next, do the same with all the other fields.

• It’s okay to be a little vague. The booking form is for starting your booking process, not ending it.
• You may need to shore up your own itinerary if you have absolutely no clue where or when you’d like to see one another. I promise I’m more flexible than you and I want to make a meeting work out, but it takes two to tango.
• You aren’t ready to meet if you aren’t willing or able to provide the information that my form requires. It’s okay to not be ready. I’ll (probably?) wait for you, too.

For your reference, here is a detailed breakdown of what I expect in each and every field of the form.

Booking form field: your name

The first field in my booking form is a text box for your name.

• The field’s label is:
  • My name is
• The field’s placeholder reads: Write your name here.
• You are expected to write your full name here. For example, Joe Smith.
• Ensure you include the name you will screen with, i.e., your legal name.
• If you have a preferred name different from your legal name, you can include that here!
  • If your legal name is a deadname, rest assured I will not call you that; it is used only for screening.

Good entry	Bad entry	Why?
Joe Smith	Joe	Please don’t omit your last name.
Joe Smith, but friends call me Jay	Jay	Please don’t omit your legal name, it is required for screening.

You may not leave this field blank, because I need to know how to address you.

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Booking form field: screening method

The second field of my booking form is a drop-down menu for choosing the method you would like to use for screening.

• The field’s label is:
  • I read your screening options and am comfortable being screened by
• The field’s placeholder reads: How you'll screen.
• You are expected to choose one from the following options:
  • Choose my legal ID document if you will send a selfie of yourself holding a driver’s license or other government-issued photo ID document.
  • Choose employment information if you will send a link to your LinkedIn profile and are willing to verify your employment information via discreet email confirmation loop.
  • Choose a video vibe check if you prefer to use a real-time secure video call as an alternative to my traditional screening methods.
  • Choose a deposit for a social date at a public venue if you will send a deposit to confirm a reservation with me in person at a public venue for a platonic date, sometimes also called a “meet and greet.”

You may not leave this field blank.

If you’ve already screened with me, simply re-use the same value you chose earlier.

I very rarely require re-screening; it’s required if…

• you get a new number that I’m not aware of
• you contact me over a new channel we’ve not previously used
• it’s been a long time since our last correspondence (like a year or so)

…so that I can re-confirm I’m speaking with the person I expect.

For more information about screening, see my FAQ: Why must I screen? / Screening makes me nervous.

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Booking form field: phone number

The third field in my booking form is a text box for entering your carrier (non-burner) phone number. Every screening method requires this information.

• The field’s label is:
  • My carrier phone number (for your screening purposes only) is
• The field’s placeholder reads: +1-555-123-4567
• You are expected to enter the phone number associated with the phone you use with a major telecoms carrier.
  • I will not use this number to contact you unless you contact me from this number, first.
  • While you may contact me from any number you wish, the number you enter here must be a carrier number, not one from a burner or texting app.
  • To further clarify, this number should be associated with the name you entered in the “Your name” field.

You may not leave this field blank. I require it for each and every new friend who wants to book, regardless of which screening method you choose.

For more information about screening, see my FAQ: How do I pass your screening process?.

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Booking form field: preferred contact method

The fourth field in my booking form is a drop-down menu for you to choose how you’d like to contact me.

• The field’s label is:
  • I prefer that we communicate using
• The field’s placeholder reads: Choose contact method.
• You are expected to choose one from the following options:
  • Choose Signal Private Messenger if you’d like the booking form to send your message to my Signal Private Messenger account.
    • Signal is far and away my most preferred contact method, so you’ll definitely earn some bonus points for messaging me this way!
    • You will need the Signal app installed on the device you are filling out the form from.
  • Choose WhatsApp if you’d like the booking form to send your message to my WhatsApp Business account.
    • You will need the WhatsApp app installed on the device you are filling out the form from.
  • Choose email if you’d like the booking form to send an email to my ProtonMail address ([email protected]).
    • You will need to have an email client or a webmail site installed on or registered with the device you are filling out the form from.
  • Choose SMS/text message if you’d like the booking form to send your message to my own plain text messaging number. You will need to have an SMS/text messaging app installed on the device you are filling out the form from.
    • You probably don’t want to use this option if you are filling in my form from a laptop. (Consider email instead.)
    • Even from a phone, this option is not always reliable, and a warning to this effect will show up on the booking form when you select this option.
  • Choose Jabber/XMPP instant message if you’d like the booking form to send your message to my Jabber/XMPP identity ([email protected]).
    • You will need an XMPP client app installed on the device you are filling out the form from.
  • Choose SimpleX if you’d like to use SimpleX to send me your message.
    • You will need to have installed the SimpleX mobile phone app on the device with which you are filling out the form.

You may not leave this field blank, because I can’t reply to you if you do.

This field also determines how I’ll respond to your inquiry. For example, if you chose email, I’ll reply from my email to the email address from which you messaged me. If you chose Signal, I’ll reply via Signal to the Signal account from which you messaged me, etcetera.

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Booking form field: source referral

The fifth field in my booking form is a text suggestion box for you to let me know how you first learned about me.

• The field’s label is:
  • I found your Web site via
• The field’s placeholder reads: Where you found me.
• You are expected to write a brief description of where you first encountered me.
  • You can write anything you like, but in some Web browsers a list of suggestions will appear as you start typing.
  • You can choose one of these suggestions, or write some other free-form entry.

You may not leave this field blank, but what you enter here has no bearing on the rest of your inquiry and does not affect your booking in any way.

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Booking form field: free-form notes

The sixth field in my booking form is a multi-line text area where you can write anything you like about yourself, about why you’re reaching out to me, or nothing at all. This is your chance to show off some of your personality and interests. It gives me more information about why you think we’d have fun together.

• The field’s label is:
  • More about me:
• The field’s placeholder reads: Use a professional, warm, cordial tone. Please avoid vulgarities.
• You are expected to write a brief description of why you want to see me and/or share any information about yourself that you think is relevant for our date.
  • You are encouraged to express specific needs or desires in a respectful manner.
  • If you are booking as part of a couple or group, mention that here with enough detail for me to recognize which other half of the couple or members of the group you’re referring to.
  • If you would like to book me and another provider together as a duo, mention your interest in that here and name the other provider.
  • It’s okay to flirt a bit here, too, but please do so by crafting intelligent innuendo, double entendres, or showing off your impressive vocabulary.

You may leave this field blank if you like, but this is your chance to make a unique first impression, so I encourage you to make the most of it.

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Booking form field: deposit method

The seventh field in my booking form is a drop-down menu for choosing the method by which you will send your deposit.

• The field’s label is:
  • …is ready to send via
• The field’s placeholder reads: Choose deposit method.
• You are expected to choose one from the following options:
  • Choose cryptocurrency if you intend to send your deposit via any of a number of cryptocurrencies.
    • This is my preferred payment mechanism, and the most discreet. If you have CashApp, PayPal, or Venmo, you can use these apps to send cryptocurrency and I will happily show you how.
  • Choose debit/credit card if you intend to send your deposit by using a traditional Visa or MasterCard payment card.
    • I accept payment cards via numerous processing backends; I will present the options to you once we are in contact.
  • Choose digital gift card if you intend to send your deposit by purchasing a gift card and letting me redeem it myself.
    • Please do not purchase the gift card until I direct you to a specific one.

You may not leave this field blank because, as per my deposit policy, a deposit is required to reserve my time. These methods are the only ways I accept deposit payments. Including this information in your initial inquiry helps us get to the fun part sooner!

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Booking form field: booking type

The eighth field in my booking form is a drop down menu for you to choose the category of booking we’ll need to coordinate.

• The field’s label is:
  • May I reserve your time for
• The field’s placeholder reads: Choose booking type
• You are expected to choose one from the following options:
  • Choose an incall (provider hosts) if you’d like to visit me at one of my incall spaces or have me make hotel arrangements for us.
  • Choose an outcall (client hosts) if you’d like me to visit you at a hotel room, residence, or other venue you will arrange yourself.
  • Choose a FMTY (travel with or to you) if you’d like me to travel to a destination outside of my posted tours or home cities.
    • This is the option you want if you need to meet me in a place I don’t normally go, or don’t currently have any plans to visit.
  • Choose a social date (platonic/screening only) if you just want to meet for a vibe check, to test our compatibility in person, or if you want to screen by meeting in person.
    • This is not a free meeting; deposit and cancellation policies will apply as normal at my social-only rate.
  • Choose a virtual video date (online) to reserve my time for a (possibly rather steamy) video call.
  • Choose a texting/sexting session (online) to reserve my time and attention for us to engage in some luxurious literary libations together.
  • Choose a curiosity call (phone) to schedule an exploratory curiosity call at a time that’s convenient for us both.

You may not leave this field blank. I need to know what you’re hoping to book my time for so that we can plan accordingly.

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Booking form field: service type

The ninth field in my booking form is a drop down menu for you to choose the service you’re expecting of me during the booking.

• The field’s label is:
  • for your
• The field’s placeholder reads: Choose service type
• You are expected to choose one from the following options:
  • Choose cuddling services for a reduced-rate, platonic but physically close experience with plenty of affectionate touch.
  • Choose GFE services for almost all needs, including intimate companionship attention except specific fetishes.
  • Choose pro-sub/kinky GFE services to prepare me for entertaining specific kinks and fetishes, power play, or specialized roleplay scenarios.

You may not leave this field blank. It’s okay if you’re not sure which of these options to choose, we can talk about it at some detail once you complete screening.

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Booking form field: duration

The tenth field in my booking form is a numeric input box for you to choose the length of time you’d like to spend with me.

• The field’s label is:
  • for a duration of
• The field’s placeholder reads: #
• You are expected to enter a number or decimal value, such as 1 for one hour, or 2.5 for two and a half hours.

You may not leave this field blank. If your Web browser supports it, you can use the arrow keys on your keyboard to increase or decrease the number in steps of 0.5, indicating a half hour (30 minutes). Note that I prioritize longer bookings with more notice over shorter appointments requested last minute.

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Booking form field: location

The eleventh field in my booking form is a text suggestion box for you to fill in the name of the place where you’d like to meet me.

• The field’s label is:
  • when I will be in
• The field’s placeholder reads: Anytown, USA (City, Country)
• You are expected to enter the name of a city, a neighborhood, the address of a hotel/venue (for outcalls), or just enter “an online/remote location” or something to that effect to indicate that the service you want can be fulfilled without physically meeting.
  • Cities that I service regularly will be available as suggestions in browsers that support this feature.
  • When I’m touring, you also may find those cities listed here, too.
  • Even if you don’t see your city in this list, you can propose to meet anywhere you know you’ll be and I’ll try to align some stars for us.

You may not leave this field blank for bookings that require us to meet in person for what I hope are obvious reasons. I may ignore this field entirely if your inquiry is for a booking type that requests online, virtual, or remote services, but you still need to write something here, such as “online” to indicate this.

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Booking form field: preferred date and time

The twelfth field in my booking form is a date and time entry widget for you to fill in a precise date and time that you most prefer to meet.

• The field’s label is:
  • on
• The field’s default value is a date and time in the past.
• You are expected to enter a date and time in the future.
  • You can enter any time you are available, but remember that planning our date in advance will give us the best experience together.
  • The more notice you give me, the more time we have to build anticipation and set up a lovely time together.
  • Especially short notice bookings (less than 24 hours) may incur a rush fee.

You may not leave this field blank because all bookings must be performed at some time, and I need to know when you’re availale to spend that time with me.

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Booking form field: alternate date and time

The thirteenth field in my booking form is a date and time entry widget for you to fill in a precise date and time that you can also meet if your first choice is not one we can make work together.

• The field’s label is:
  • or, alternatively, on
• The field’s default value is a date and time in the past.
• You are expected to enter a date and time in the future.
  • You can enter any time you are available, but remember that planning our date in advance will give us the best experience together.
  • You probably shouldn’t enter the same date and time as the first one, because that defeats the point of providing alternatives.
  • The more notice you give me, the more time we have to build anticipation and set up a lovely time together.
  • Especially short notice bookings (less than 24 hours) may incur a rush fee.

You may not leave this field blank because all bookings must be performed at some time, and I need to know when you’re availale to spend that time with me. By providing an alternative option as a backup to the first option, you help reduce the amount of back-and-forth we need to schedule something in case the first time doesn’t work.

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Booking form field: confirm policy agreement

The fourteenth field in my booking form is a checkbox that you must check to confirm that you have read and agree to my published policies.

• The field’s label is:
  • Yes, I have read, understood, and fully agree to abide by the information on your Web site, including your rates, policies, and availability.
• The field’s default value is unchecked.
• You are expected to check the box.

You must check this box to submit my booking form and continue to the next step. By checking this box, you acknowledge that you have read and understood and fully agree to abide by the information stated on my website. I know there’s a lot of information on my site. Yes, I do expect you to read all of it before booking me.

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Booking form field: confirm screening attachment

The fifteenth field in my booking form is a checkbox that you must check to confirm that you agree to send screening information if you have elected to use a remote screening option.

• The field’s label is:
  • Yes, I will attach all relevant screening information. I understand that incomplete inquiries, such as those without screening information, may not receive a reply.
• The field’s default value is unchecked.
• You are expected to check the box.

You must check this box to submit my booking form and continue to the next step. By checking this box, you acknowledge that you will go through my lightweight screening process. Note that nowhere did you actually provide the screening information yet. This means if you do not provide the screening information in the next step, your inquiry will likely not receive a reply.

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Submit my booking form to send your inquiry

Once you think you’ve completed filling in all the fields in the form, you can press the buttons at the bottom to submit it. There are two buttons, numbered 1 and 2.

1. Click or tap the first button, which reads “Copy text”. The text of the button will change to “Copied!”
   • Pressing this button reads your entries in my booking form and places a copy of its text in your device’s clipboard.
2. If the second button reads “Check fields,” it means you omitted a required field, or entered information I won’t accept, such as a date or time in the past. Otherwise, the button will read “Send inquiry.” Click or tap this second button to continue.
   • If the button still said “Check fields” when you pressed it, you’ll be refocused on the first form field whose value needs correction.
   • If the button read, “Send inquiry,” pressing it will progress you to the next step.

When you press the Send inquiry button, your chosen communication method (email, Signal, WhatsApp, etcetera) will activate. Your browser might also show you a dialogue box informing you that another app will open to handle this action, so click Ok to open that other app.

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Review and confirm your inquiry is as you desire

After you fill all the fields in my booking form and press the Send inquiry button on my booking form, the corresponding app for the contact method you chose earlier will open directly to a conversation thead or draft message with all the information you entered in my booking form written out for you. The exception to this is if you chose Signal Private Messenger. In this case, use the clip/pasteboard feature (such as by pressing Control-V on your keyboard), to paste the form’s message into the Signal conversation that was opened with me.

Now’s a good time to review your inquiry to me before you commit to sending it. My booking form composed what I consider an ideal initial inquiry for you. (In fact, if you ask around, I’m sure many other providers will largely agree that they’d find it hot to get a first message written like this, too!) Make sure it says what you want, and that you entered the information you intended to.

Since the message you’re about to send is just text, you can also extend any part of the inquiry by simply editing the drafted message at this point. Please feel free to get as creative as you like, but keep the tone professional and don’t start asking highly explicit questions or using overtly sexualized language. Save that for after you screen.

Attach your screening information to the templated message

The only thing missing from your message now is your screening information, which you’ll need to send me if you’ve never screened with me before and are inquiring about anything other than a social meet-and-greet.

My booking form is designed to carefully protect your privacy at this early stage, which is why you’re expected to directly attach it to this pre-written message rather than via the Web form. Regardless of which app you’re now using to contact me (Signal, WhatsApp, email, or txt message), you have the option of attaching or sending images to screen yourself with:

• If you chose Signal Private Messenger, tap or click the plus (+) icon or the paperclip icon to attach a photo.
• If you chose WhatsApp, follow these instructions to attach a photo.
• If you chose email, use your email’s built-in attachment feature as usual.
• If you chose SMS/text message, you can also use your messenger’s built-in attachment feature just like normal.

Make sure the screening photo you attach is clear, recent, and is high-quality enough to be read clearly. Sometimes, SMS/text messages downgrade the quality of photos, so be prepared to re-send it if I ask you to, possibly through a different communication channel. Once again, Signal Private Messenger is the most private and most reliable communiation mechanism. Please consider using it if you aren’t already.

Send your inquiry via your chosen app

Once you have attached your screening information to the pre-drafted message, Send the message!

Voila! You’ve sent your inquiry. Take a break from the screen, put your phone down, enjoy a walk, go to the gym, or just enjoy the building anticipation of knowing that I’m going to squee with pleasure when I see it!

Patiently wait for my reply

Please be patient awaiting my reply.

Under normal circumstances, it can take me up to a day or two to reply to even the most tempting inquiries. If I’m currently traveling, it can take even longer. I can promise you that well-crafted inquiries, such as those composed by my booking form, are all but guanrateed to receive an excited reply in short order!

At this point, we’re in contact, and the goal is simply to work out any remaining details.

If you don’t receive a reply

If you don’t receive a reply from me, it can be because of any of the following reasons:

• You didn’t include information I request, like screening information.
• You requested a session on very short notice, or for the same day.
  • While I can sometimes accomodate a same-day appointment, this is rare and I may not reply if I can’t.
  • You are still expected to screen, even for same-day requests.
• You used vulgar or sexually explicit language somewhere in your inquiry.
• Your email was filtered to my spam folder. I do check my spam folder, but I maintain an extremely strict spam filter that will flag your message if:
  • your email address looks like a bot’s.
  • your email was recently created.
  • your email was sent from an anonymous mailing service.
  • you attached a file type other than a single-frame image (JPEG, PNG, or non-animated WEBP). Any email with other types of attachments will get deleted instantly. (Attaching OpenPGP keys is also acceptable.)
• You used txt/SMS, especially from a burner, texting app, or VoIP number.
  • It’s okay to communicate with me from these apps, but they are extremely unreliable and I may not have received it.
  • Consider just using Signal Private Messenger on your burner phone, instead.

Confirm date details by sending a deposit

Sending your deposit, which is a small portion of my consideration paid in advance, is what holds your reservation in my calendar. Deposits keep us both accountable to show up for one another.

When you receive my reply, read it closely! In it, I will:

1. reiterate my understanding of your expectations and desires, so that we’re both on the same page.
2. propose that we act on one of the two date and time options you initially suggested.
3. maybe ask for follow-up information, such as any further screening information, payment preference, or logisitcal details, if necessary.
4. probably use a lot of happy words and a fair number of heart emojis! 💜

I will also supply you with instructions for sending your deposit. These instructions will differ depending on which payment method you said you prefer.

• For cryptocurrency: I’ll ask you which currency you want to pay in. I accept literally hundreds of different cryptocurrencies, but strongly prefer shielded Zcash.
• For payment cards: I’ll direct you to one of my payment card processors where you can send me a “tip” or buy me a “cash gift.”
• For gift cards: I’ll send you a direct link to a gift card I want you to buy from a reputable gift card vendor.

For more information, read my deposit policy.

About extensive or synchronous correspondence

It rarely takes more than three to five messages to inquire, confirm, and realize a date.

1. Message one: you send your complete inquiry with screening information.
2. Message two: I reply with a confirmation of your expectations, date details including the chosen date/time from your suggested options, and instructions for sending your deposit.
3. Message three: you confirm these details and send your deposit to reserve time in my calendar.

Real life is often messier, and it’s possible that I’ll need to ask you about, say, food allergies or preferences if we’re going out, or clarify something in your inquiry.

There’s no set number to how many messages we’ll exchange, but you’ll undoubtedly notice my attention to detail and thoroughness in each one I send. My goal is to handle logistics quickly and with as few round-trips as necessary so that we can get on to the really fun stuff equally quickly!

If we find ourselves unable to plan for and set a specific date, time, or place for your appointment in more than five back-and-forth messages, it may mean you aren’t quite ready to book. In that case, I’ll probably suggest you send a new inquiry when you are. It’s no big deal, I just need to move on to other inquiries.

Otherwise, if you feel like you need more correspondence or a real-time conversation to iron out logistics, test our chemistry, or communicate and set expectations, you can:

• schedule a curiosity call so we can get on the phone and talk things out or settle any pre-date nerves.
• demonstrate good etiquette by sending me a tip or buying me a gift off my wishlist as a show of good faith recognition for the additional planning time.

Enjoy the building anticipation of our upcoming date

Once we’ve worked out logistical details, you can simply enjoy the building anticipation of our time together. Anticipation is an often overlooked part of foreplay, so this is frequently more fun than you may at first think!

The two things to remember during this period of time are simply to remain patient and, especially as the date nears, to stay communicative.

Even if we’re not in touch every day, rest assured, I’m not forgetting about the date. I also welcome brief notes letting me know you’re thinking of me, and I may send you some of the same! These short “heartbeat” messages simply ensure our line of communication is open and helps build up that spark of excitement before we see each other!

If you find that you’re craving more attention than that, it’s respectful to send tips or gifts along with your messages! Other options include:

• inquiring about a more ongoing texting arrangement.
• booking a remote (online phone/video) date in the interim.
• engaging parasocially on my socials or content sites.

The day before our date

On the day before our date, I’ll send you a reminder message. The reminder will re-confirm all the details we’ve already worked out (date, time, duration, and so on).

You must reply affirmatively confirming receipt of this message to move forward with the date.

If you ghost, I can’t be confident we’re still on and will consider the date cancelled. (This is another reason I strongly suggest booking via Signal Private Messenger, as it is the most reliable and discreet messaging channel.)

In this reminder message, I’ll also provide more specific instructions for exactly how to meet, including things like where to park if you’re driving, which intersection to meet at, a specific address with instructions on how to use the buzzer, and so on.

If you haven’t met a companion before, this part can feel a bit like spycraft, but don’t worry. That’s just pre-date jitters and butterflies. Once we see one another, everything will start to feel much more comfortable!

If you need to reschedule or cancel

As the time for our date comes closer, it’s important that you stay in touch with me if plans need to change.

Rescheduling is perfectly acceptable, and normal, but you need to communicate this to me so we can make other arrangements without stressing.

For more information, see my cancellation policy.

On the day of our date

The day we’re meeting is going to be exhilerating, and that excitement can make it easy to forget some important details.

Here’s a quick checklist you can refer to make sure everything is in order:

• Be certain to acknowledge my reminder message if you haven’t already!
• If you’re offering your donation in cash, make sure you
  • counted it correctly, and
  • have it tucked away discreetly inside an envelope, greeting card, or other small gift.
• Wash your body thoroughly.
  • Read Grooming for a date with a sex worker for an excellent, short guide on this, specifically.
• Depart with plenty of time to account for travel, potential traffic, and other unexpected delays.

Finally, don’t sweat the small stuff! You’re human. I’m human.

Let’s enjoy our life and our bodies together!

Show up

This step is the most fun: show up, and let me take care of the rest. ;)

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