Violet Rollergirl’s cryptocurrency primer for providers

If you’re reading this, I hope it means you’re going to give me the chance to convince you to start using cryptocurrency. As I write this, a lot of sex workers don’t. And I get why.

Cryptocurrency has a reputation problem. It’s often maligned for social reasons (“cryptobros”), ecological reasons (“blockchains are killing the planet”), and political reasons (“money is made up bullshit and a tool of the oppressor”). I’m not going to refute any of these points, except maybe the second one; both of the cryptocurrency technologies I’m going to recommend are moving away from compute-intensive Proof-of-Work (PoW) schemes to ecologically-friendly Proof-of-Stake (PoS) schemes.

This article is for my colleagues who are willing to give cryptocurrency a chance.

In this article

  1. Why I use cryptocurrency as a provider
  2. Two kinds of cryptocurrencies: private and not private
    1. Zcash in a nutshell
    2. Monero in a nutshell
  3. Self-custody or bust
  4. I’m convinced: what’s next?

Why I use cryptocurrency as a provider

Broadly speaking, there are two big reasons to use cryptocurrency. Regardless of whether you are a sex worker or not, cryptocurrencies can be used as:

  • a medium of exchange, i.e., you can use it like cash, to pay for things and accept payments from clients and customers.
  • a store of value, i.e., you can use it like a bank account or an investment portfolio, to keep financial assets in a safe place, to trade it like stocks or mutual funds, or to hold onto it like a retirement plan.

Both are valid uses, but let’s be frank: most of us are poor. We don’t have large investment portfolios. We don’t care about the crypto stock market. We aren’t tracking the volatility metrics of a given coin. We are mostly just trying to survive, and so we aren’t here to learn day trading strategies.

As a sex worker, I just want a way to pay for things (like my ads) and a safe way for my clients and customers to pay me. Unfortunately, if we rely on the traditional financial system (often called the “fiat” economy), we are taking on a bunch of additional risks. These risks include:

  • having our legal identity revealed (“doxxed”) to our client or customer
  • getting banned from the payment app we’re using, or losing access to our bank account (getting “de-banked”) and having our funds in it frozen or confiscated
  • having sales reversed (suffering “chargebacks”) by disgruntled, malicious, or scammy clients
  • accidentally accepting counterfeit bills. It’s even possible for a client not to know a bill they gave us is counterfeit!

Using cryptocurrency correctly solves every single one of these problems. That’s why I use it.

Since cryptocurrency can function like digital cash, I don’t need to sign up to a big tech service or open an account at the cryptocurrency equivalent of a bank to use it. Since it’s not actually physical, but rather “mathematical” money, there’s no chance at all of a client giving me counterfeit bills or coins. For the same reason, once a client or customer sends me money in a cryptocurrency transaction, there’s no way for that sender to initiate a reversal or punish me with a chargeback.

There are also some additional benefits that using cryptocurrency has over fiat currency. I think the most awe-inspiring of these is how I can cross an international border with absolutely no physical device on my person, and yet still travel with all my money. In other words, cryptocurrency changes money from something you have (physical cash) into something you know (a secret pass phrase). If you memorize your cryptocurrency wallet’s secret phrase, you’ll always have access to your money in a way that no one can take away from you, even if you’re traveling with nothing but your birthday suit.

Two kinds of cryptocurrencies: private and not private

Some of the above, like the way cryptocurrency makes counterfeits impossible (cryptographers would say, “mathematically infeasible”) is made possible regardless of which cryptocurrency you use. Bitcoin is the famous cryptocurrency, and it’s had this counterfeit-proof characteristic since its inception. But some of the other things I talk about above are only possible if you strictly limit yourself to certain cryptocurrency technologies that are broadly classified as privacy coins.

A privacy coin is a cryptocurrency that keeps transaction data, such as a payment’s sender, recipient, and amount, secret. Technically, privacy coins use math known as zero-knowledge proofs (ZKPs) to encrypt the details of each transaction so that only the sender and intended recipient know what’s up. Only privacy coins do this. In contrast, using Bitcoin literally broadcasts your financial dealings for the world to see. I don’t want to be doing that, nor do my clients.

There are a lot of privacy coins out there, but the only two that I’m going to talk about are the two most reputable and proven ones, the ones I prefer to accept: Zcash and Monero.

Zcash in a nutshell

Zcash is the gold standard in cryptocurrency privacy technology. It was also the first privacy coin to popularize the idea of using zero-knowledge proofs to encrypt cryptocurrency transactions. It was super slow when it was first introduced in 2016, but has since become faster and better in so many ways. Today, Zcash is in its sixth major iteration (called a network upgrade), and now uses a technology called zk-SNARKs, which is a funny name that stands for Zero-Knowledge Succinct Non-interactive ARguments of Knowledge, to massively speed up the computation required for the strong privacy guarantees it gives us.

A lot of people who have been in the cryptocurrency space for a while have a lot of bad information about Zcash, which stem from an outdated understanding of its technology and app ecosystem.

Most people who rag on Zcash will tell you that it’s “not private by default.” This is just not true anymore. They are saying this because Zcash actually supports both a private and a non-private mode. In Zcash parlance, we call this “shielded” (private) and “transparent” (non-private/public) addresses and transactions. Back in the day, most apps that supported Zcash’s currency token, called ZEC (the Zcash Electric Coin), didn’t support the shielded functionality, but that’s since changed.

Good apps like Zashi Wallet exist that not only fully support and default to Zcash’s shielded mode, they also automatically convert non-private/public/transparent Zcash funds into their shielded/private equivalents. Zashi in particular also prevents you from spending unshielded funds, and even goes so far as to help protect your privacy from all kinds of other deanonymization techniques by making it dead-simple to use the famous privacy-enhancing anonymizing proxy called Tor from right within the app. Zashi is made by the same team that built Zcash itself. It’s my favorite wallet app for Zcash.

Some critics of Zcash will also describe it as having “too small an anonymity set,” which is fancy-speak for “not enough people are using it to make it really private.” That’s a bit like saying you shouldn’t use Signal Private Messenger because using it will look suspicious, and while that may be true(-ish) for some people in some circumstances some of the time, it’s just not a convincing argument. If you have the choice between two tools, and one protects you while the others don’t, just use the one protecting you.

Monero in a nutshell

The other privacy coin a lot of people like, and that I’ll use, is Monero. This is the bad boy of the privacy coin world, because it’s been the cryptocurrency most used by darknet markets and ransomware gangs. A lot of people think Monero is only useful for evil things, but that’s also like saying encryption is only useful for evil things.

In reality, Monero is just a privacy coin like Zcash, except it uses a different technology than Zcash to offer its privacy. Unlike Zcash, Monero uses a technique called Ring Confidential Transactions or RingCT, in which your transaction data is mixed with and hidden among a bunch of decoy transactions. This makes it harder (but not impossible) to determine which transaction is your real one and which is not.

There’s a famous saying in the cybersecurity world that goes, “security through obscurity is no security at all.” That’s why I personally like Zcash’s technology better than Monero’s. That said, Monero is absolutely “good enough” for me for now and getting better all the time.

I also like Monero specifically because it doesn’t use the same technology as Zcash. Another famous saying in cybersecurity is that all good security measures have “defense in depth.” This is sometimes called “layered security,” and in this case it means there’s only an upside to using both Monero and Zcash together if you want to. I think this is overkill for everyone except the most dedicated or at-risk individuals, but using two technologies that are different from one another means that if disaster strikes and one of the two is later broken, you’re still protected because you used the other, too.

My favorite app for Monero is Cake Wallet.

Self-custody or bust

Just like there are two broad kinds of cryptocurrencies you could use (private and not-private), there are two broad categories of cryptocurrency apps you can use: self-custody, and third-party custody.

The concept of “custody” in cryptocurrency refers to who keeps your money for you. Either you do, self-custody, or someone else does, third-party custody. This is confusing for a lot of people because both types of apps will call themselves “wallets,” which makes people think the money is in their own hands, just like putting money inside of a physical wallet means you keep it on your person. In reality, only self-custody wallets do this. Third-party custodial wallets, such as those offered by Coinbase, CashApp, and many others, are actually more like traditional bank accounts; you need to ask a teller to please give you your money back when you need it, because they’re holding on to it for you.

I don’t trust third-party custodial wallets. I don’t have them. I won’t use them. I’ll never recommend them.

Self-custodial wallet apps are the way to go. Using a third-party custodial wallet re-introduces most of the risks of the traditional financial system. Put another way, self-custodial wallets are the only sure-fire way to protect yourself from suffering chargebacks, or getting doxed.

Both of my favorite wallet apps mentioned above, Zashi (for Zcash) and Cake Wallet for (Monero and Bitcoin), are examples of self-custodial wallets.

Self-custody wallets do come with a tradeoff, the same way physical wallets do: if you lose your wallet app, you lose your money. The way to protect yourself from this is a backup. You can safely back up your wallet app to your Google Account or Apple iCloud Account, because good wallet apps will encrypt your wallet data to your phone’s unlock PIN or passcode. But the best way to protect yourself from losing your money is to store your wallet app’s “secret phrase,” perhaps even storing it in your mind (memorizing it), so that you can regenerate it later.

I’ll talk more about that later, but for now the important thing to know is that unless you’re using a self-custody wallet app, you’re actually giving the third-party service direct access to your money, just like a regular bank account. This defeats the point of crypto, for me, so I don’t really listen to anything anyone has to say about them.

I’m convinced: what’s next?

Hopefully, this gives you enough of a foundation to understand why I use cryptocurrency and why you might want to, too. By sticking to privacy coins like Zcash and Monero, none of my financial transactions can be linked to my real-world information. By avoiding third-party custodial wallets and services, I never need to show my government ID to a banking institution, and I’m protected from chargebacks because I am effectively my own bank. And using cryptocurrency in the first place protects me from counterfeits.

The biggest downside to cryptocurrency is that it’s still not used by a lot of clients and customers. But, hopefully, as more providers learn to accept and use it, that will change, too.

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Page last modified: 05 September 2025.

Hello, friend! I'm Violet.

Your bubbly, outgoing trans GFE and (optionally) kinky companion. Let’s get acquainted!

Violet Rollergirl

Also known as “the girl with the QR code tattoo,” I'm Vi, a bubbly, outgoing, and adventurous trans girlfriend experience with an optional kinky, submissive twist.

Confident and kind, a little kittenish, and always curious in the most exciting ways, I’m equal parts whip-smart and whipping girl, fit and athletic, with soft hair in curly red ringlets and a natural aesthetic that can be hard femme, curious kitten, sexy librarian, cyberpunk hentai seductress, or a fantasy somewhere in between.

I host at convenient and well-equipped private incall spaces in and around NYC 🗽 and Boston. 🏙️

While my candy coating comes in a couple flavors that help me seamlessly shape shift between a fun loving hippie at rave festival campgrounds to a smirking pool shark bending over the billiards table, on the inside I love nothing more than being your good girl, a shameless and free-spirited companion with whom it's easy to relax. Play your cards right and I would thoroughly enjoy being your:

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I'm often rollerblading when in the city, or hiking when in the woods. In Jewish grade school I was that soft spoken, nerdy, bookish student reading STEM texts and sci-fi stories (one of my favorite genres). I'm drawn to the intimacy of sharing time together while gazing at skyline views from rooftop lounges just as much as to the thrill of making out in dark corners of the club, or even through the bars of a dungeon cage.

For sweeter cravings, I offer an oasis full of affection, connection, and intimate moments that will make you feel absolutely adored. Let's go to a beach and listen to the waves, get in cold water and then make each other hot, or sail into a sunset like lovers in a movie! Let's cuddle on a balcony and watch a cityscape sparkle in the sky, or go to a comedy show to laugh and get just this side of inappropriately drunk together. I love a fancy cocktail and white tablecloth dinner but I'll smile just as much at a dive bar bending over a pool table and making bets on trick shots, snuggling in the back of a movie theater, or goofing off in the kitchen, eating dinner by lady-and-the-tramp'ing our way through a home-cooked meal before enjoying bedroom desserts.

For spicier desires, I relish being a very, very good girl, the kind that daddy (or mommy) can spank to make me better! If you're new to taking charge, I can tease out the dominance from you. It's a particular specialty of mine; I want to hear all about your kinks! I enjoy a very wide range of fetishes.

I'm the girl who purrs appreciately when she's pet, yet also cheerfully turns naughty when given the right commands. Are you ready for me to be your shape shifting vixen and compassionate companion?

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Height 5 feet, 7 inches (169cm)
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Deposit Policy

I accept deposits via cryptocurrency (ZEC or XMR preferred, BTC or ETH accepted), gift cards, or fiat payment apps. Always leave the payment app's transaction note/memo field blank.

  • One-quarter (25%) of the total booking cost while in my hometown.
  • One-third (33%) of the total booking cost while touring.

Deposits are non-refundable and non-transferable, except when cancelling in certain cases. (See my cancellation policy for details.) Your date is not confirmed until its deposit is confirmed.

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Cancellation Policy

It's okay, you can always cancel or reschedule a date for any reason, no questions asked. If you cancel with:

  • 3 or more days (72 hours) notice, the full amount (100%) of your non-refundable deposit can be applied to another date.
  • 3 to 1 days (72-24 hours) notice, half (50%) of your non-refundable deposit can be applied one time only to another date.
  • 1 day or less (24 hours) notice, your non-refundable deposit will be forfeited.

When applying the deposit for a cancelled date towards the next, that next date must be no later than 3 months after your original booking.

In the unlikely event that I have to cancel our date, you'll promptly have your full deposit returned to you and I will do my best to offer you another opportunity to meet.

(Please note that I accept patronage for my time and companionship only.)

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Booking Form

I’m driven by novelty and curiosity, so I’m already eager to meet you. Yes, you. My booking form, below, will help you draft an inquiry and make the perfect first impression! (More tips for making a good first impression.) Click the small info symbol (ⓘ) linked beside a field for detailed information about what’s expected in it.

Hi, Violet.

Please allow me to introduce myself.

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I've been drawn to you since…

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I'm ready to plan a date!

hour(s) . Would either of these options allow us to meet?

I'm excited to hear from you!

3. Paste your inquiry message text into the Signal chat!

Connection Methods

I can be reached via any of the following channels, though I strongly prefer encrypted messaging via Signal Private Messenger. (You’ll earn a $40 USD discount for booking entirely over Signal as a thank you for helping to protect your privacy and mine.)

When reaching out to book a session, only messages that include all of the same information that my booking form asks you to provide will receive a reply. If you don't receive a reply, this is likely why.

Otherwise, you may also contact me via email addressed to [email protected], using WhatsApp, and finally by text/SMS to +13473157531 if necessary.

Please be patient as it may take a day for me to reply.

In the meantime, explore the Good Client Guide for more helpful advice about how to prepare for your date with a provider like me, or have a look at some of my hot friends.

First Contact

In your first message

My booking form can help you write a message that includes all the information I need from you for us to meet. When writing me, always include:

  • Your preferred name.
  • When you're hoping to see me; supply both a preferred and an alternate date and time.
  • How long you'd like to see me for. See my rates for helpful guidance in selecting a duration.
  • Where you want to meet: my place/"incall," your place/"outcall," or indicate a social date/meet and greet. Look up my travel dates if you're not sure where I'll be.
  • If this is our first contact, choose a screening method you're comfortable using. Screening is easy and mandatory.

Do's and don'ts

Here are some things to keep in mind when writing me. Please:

do… do not…
include all the information I require of you to schedule your booking in your very first message, including your screening information. I may not reply to messages that lack any piece of info requested by my booking form. write only “hey,” or omit any of the requested information. If you're wondering why I'm not replying, it’s most likely because you didn't include something I asked you for. If you're not sure what to write, fill in my booking inquiry form to draft a complete first message to me.
mention any specific needs, desires, or concerns you have in a respectful, professional tone. For our mutual safety, I will not reply to explicit or vulgar communication until after you have passed screening because I simply do not know who you are until then. use sexually explicit or vulgar language. I understand the desire to clarify or set such expectations early on, but any such discussion must wait until you have passed my screening so that we can speak to each other confident in the knowledge that we are both consenting adults.
speak only for yourself, even if you are part of a couple or group; each member of your party must contact me individually so I know everyone is on the same page and consenting. speak for anyone other than yourself in your party if you are part of a couple or group.
be past the age of majority, usually eighteen years of age or older. I only ever see people who are legally considered adults. under any circumstances, ever contact me if you are or on behalf of a minor. I will cease correspondence with you immediately upon learning that a minor is in any way involved.

Please do reach out without fear of your gender, race, ethnicity, size, or religion. I respond best to respectful inquiries from individuals or couples who are fueled by my energy, are hungry for intimacy, or eager to shed lingering shames.

Explore the Good Client Guide for more communication tips and generally useful information.

Screening options

If we're not yet acquainted, such as when you're writing to me for the first time, you'll need to complete my lightweight screening process. Everyone must screen. (Why?)

I treat your information with the utmost confidentiality, as discretion and screening helps assure our mutual safety and comfort.

You can successfully screen by completing any one (1) of the following requirements:

  • attaching a selfie of yourself holding a valid, clearly readable government-issued photo ID card/document plus a carrier phone number (not a texting app or burner/VoIP number) to the message you send when you contact me, or
  • attaching a selfie plus a LinkedIn profile link plus a carrier phone number (not a texting app or burner/VoIP number) to the message you send when you contact me, or
  • scheduling and sending a deposit for a meet-and-greet/social-only date (at my social rate) where we will physically meet in a public venue.

I consider messages that lack screening information to be incomplete. I may not reply to them. If you need help writing an inquiry, use my booking form to draft a completed one. I'm looking forward to hearing from you!

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Tours and Travel locations

As an extrovert with a chronic case of wanderlust, I travel frequently and sometimes suddenly, so you’ll want to plan in advance or risk rolling the dice on our stars aligning. My travel calendar, embedded below, is updated from time to time, and reflects my best estimate of where I’ll be at any given time.

You can subscribe to my calendar directly via your Google Calendar to get reminders ahead of when I'll be in a new city. You can also bring me to you by sponsoring a tour or booking an extended date.

With advanced scheduling, I'm also passport-ready and available:

  • anywhere with train access in the tri-state area for bookings of 3 hours or more.
  • domestically (within the continental United States) for bookings of 6 hours or more.
  • some international locales.

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Availability

As I have autonomy over my time, with proper planning I can often be available at most times of the day or night. That said, I’m not a morning kitten, and planning our date 2 or more days in advance will give us the best experience together.

Incall Availability

I can privately host us at:

  • a luxury condo in New York City near several city public transit lines
  • a private house with a dedicated play room in the Boston/North Shore area

Showers and easy street parking are available at both locations.

Outcall Availability

If you would like to host:

  • I require round-trip fare for car service (including 20% tip for drivers) in addition to my usual rate paid up front.
  • For safety, I only meet new friends for the first time at a 4- or 5-star hotel, not at their personal residence. If you would like to book me for outcalls to your home, please first book a social-only date so that we may get comfortable with one another.

Hotel arrangements

If you're unable to host an outcall, I'm happy to arrange a hotel meet (with minimum 24 hours notice) at cost for the hotel reservation.

Suitors who want to really impress me should consider adding an amount with which to tip the hotel's housekeeping/maid service. (I notice when people don't tip, and I will in their stead.)

Short notice availability

My affinity for spontaneity makes same-day trysts occasionally possible IFF seeing one another is convenient for me. When booking with short notice (less than 24 hours), please keep in mind:

  • lack of foreplanning may incur a rush fee to cover last-minute higher lodging or travel costs.
  • new friends are still required to screen, which may take time, so I encourage you to get pre-screened if you often need this kind of spontaneous appointment.

Occasionally, I publish last-minute availability on social media; my Links page shows you where you can find and follow me online.

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Frequently Asked Questions (and Answers)

When choosing a companion, especially for the first time, you may have a lot of questions. A lot of these questions get asked very frequently, so I’ve gathered them here to make my answers easier for you to find, and easier for me to reference when needed.

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  1. Why must I screen? / Screening makes me nervous.
  2. How do I pass your screening process?
  3. Do you entertain groups?
  4. Is it okay if I am older/need a wheelchair/Black/genderqueer/etc.?
  5. May I request a specific outfit or makeup?
  6. What does your QR code tramp stamp go to?
  7. What should I wear for our date?
  8. When will you be in my city?
  9. Will you dominate me?

Why must I screen? / Screening makes me nervous.

I understand why screening may make you feel anxious. But the thought of spending time alone with me presumably doesn’t.

Consider that, until we are physically acquainted, the thought of spending time alone with you may make me slightly anxious, but screening you doesn’t.

Screening is meant to feel asymmetrical because its purpose is to restore some balance to the way we start out.

The thing about balance is that it’s very comfortable. After all, what is grace if not extreme levels of balance? When one is subjected to massive nonerotic power imbalances, it’s hard to get comfortable. One can’t be as open. Getting naked feels intrusive or violating.

And no one wants that. Right?

Moreover, before you screen, I simply cannot know who I may be speaking with. Since literally anyone might contact me, screening confirms that you are a consenting adult and is unconditionally required to interact with me in any meaningful way. For my safety and comfort, I am simply not comfortable significantly engaging with you otherwise.

Screening is easy and you can be done with it after your very first message to me.

How do I pass your screening process?

My screening process is like many other providers’ and is required for our mutual safety and comfort. There are no exceptions. Everyone must screen. (Why?)

The Contact page on my site offers a summary of your screening options. Only one (1) of the listed items is required to successfully pass screening, not all of them. Two of your options are remote and one is in person. Briefly once more, those options are:

  • Attaching a selfie plus a well-established LinkedIn profile link plus a carrier phone number (not a number from a texting app or burner phone) to your next message to me.
  • Attaching a selfie of yourself holding a valid government-issued photo ID plus a carrier phone number (not a number from a texting app or burner phone) to your next message to me.
  • Booking me for a platonic, meet-and-greet/social-only date. My usual deposit and cancellation policies will apply.

Again, screening is mandatory; the above listing describes a minimum requirement to pass my screening process. At my sole discretion, I may require additional validation of the information you provide in order to feel comfortable seeing you. The more information you give me before I have to ask for it, the more likely we are to be fantastically compatible. Conversely, if you are not ready to be screened, please wait until you are before contacting me.

Keep these points in mind when screening:

  • Both remote screening options require a selfie and a carrier (non-burner) phone number; it’s not either/or, it’s both/and.
  • Your selfie must be current, must match your LinkedIn profile pic or ID document photo, and must not be the same pic as your profile or ID document photo itself.
  • When sending an ID document, you may redact all information printed on it except your full name, photo, and date of birth (or birth year if that is enough to prove you are not a minor).
  • Ensure the text on your ID is readable. Sending images via SMS/txt often degrades them; I recommend booking via Signal Private Messenger.
  • To make a stellar first impression, consider providing any verification information you feel comfortable offering, whether or not it is listed above.

Finally, please remember that I consider messages lacking screening information to be incomplete and I may simply not reply to them.

Do you entertain groups?

Yes, and happily! I am enthusiastically bisexual and love joining fun-loving straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, or pansexual couples for all sorts of adventurous shenanigans! I’m also happy to entertain groups of friends at private parties or similar events.

In either case, I’ll simply need each individual participant to screen and reach out to me individually so I can confirm everyone involved is on the same page and consenting, as I can’t accept bookings when communicating through a proxy.

To book me for a group event, simply ask everyone in your party to fill in my booking form and tell them to note that they are part of the same group.

Is it okay if I am older/need a wheelchair/Black/genderqueer/etc.?

Absolutely, wholeheartedly, unequivocally yes, it is okay, and I am deeply disheartened that the world is still such that it makes you feel the need to ask, although I do understand why you do. What matters to me is the way you treat me. As long as you are of legal age, your race, years of experience, looks, religion, nationality, tax bracket, and other demographic information is in no way a determining factor for whether or not I’ll meet with you.

The only information you need to disclose about yourself to see me is the information I ask for in my booking and screening process. The only exception to this is if you have accessibility needs that may prevent me from sufficiently accomodating you at my incall or you have other factors such as medical conditions you’d like to disclose to ensure I can appropriately prepare for and ensure that our time together is enjoyable for us.

Beyond that, I will also keep in mind anything else you do feel is important to share with me and will pay attention to how that can affect our experience together.

May I request a specific outfit or makeup?

Yes and yes! I love knowing what gets you going! With enough time to prepare, we can make fantasies come to life!

While my usual look is “casual but kinky,” I have a growing collection of leather, lace, and lingerie, including some cute specialty items like garters and chokers good for roleplay or fetish scenes. I also tend to wear only very light amounts of makeup (for that natural “no-makeup makeup” look), unless asked to do otherwise. If you want me to arrive “all done up,” don’t skimp on a tip for my salon appointment!

Please always feel comfortable requesting something specific, but remember that if I don’t already have it on hand, I’ll ask you to cover the cost of the item. Otherwise, you may need to acquire it yourself and bring it with you to our date. In fact, bringing gifts like this is an extremely reliable way to ensure a fantastic time with me!

See also: “What should I wear for our date?

What does your QR code tramp stamp go to?

Hmm, that’s for me to know, and for you to bend me over to find out. Book me.

What should I wear for our date?

The short answer is: wear whatever you’re comfortable in. Yes, for real! If we’re going out, dress in whatever’s appropriate for the venue or activity. You can always ask me for my thoughts if you’re still unsure.

When we’re in private, it’s really more about inviting one another into our respective spaces—physically and emotionally—so I feel like the phrase “come as you are” is very fitting. I personally feel that comfort over curation is a superior approach more often than not.

What should I wear for video dates?

For video dates, the biggest difference from in-person dates (for me anyway), is that they tend to have this feel of, like, “dropping in” to whatever part of our day is happening. This tends to make video dates either have a very premeditated intention or the exact opposite, where we discover the vibe together.

I’ve had a lot of fun on morning video dates while still in my nightie. I’ve had fun on video dates late at night after just arriving home from a club! And I’ve had fun on video dates in between laptop work sessions. And I was more or less dressed as you’d expect for each of those…at least at first. ;)

As for my date’s outfit, in one memorable case, he wore a cozy flannel number and loose shorts and was in his living room. It’s also not unusual to wear whatever you might go to bed in, especially if you’ll be video’ing from bed. A robe, perhaps, or pajamas! It’s also okay, with me at least, if you want to show up naked, though it’s courteous to limit that to dates intentionally set up for this kind of experience, i.e., only if we’ve agreed on that beforehand!

Personally, I prefer to start clothed and undress on camera during our date, because I think that’s part of the fun of a real-time, live experience! So if matching me would help your nerves at all, consider when our video date is scheduled for. Early morning, I’ll probably be in more casual wear. Mid-day, I’ll be in a cute daytime ‘fit for turning heads when out and about. Later at night, more likely something befitting my nightlife hobbies!

Regardless, I’m also always happy to accomodate requests. Whatever I’ll be in, I’ll be looking forward to slowly peeling it off of myself to give you a peek at what’s underneath. 😘

When will you be in my city?

I religiously maintain my public travel calendar, which will show you where I’m planning to be and when. You can even subscribe to it directly in your calendaring application of choice, like Google Calendar, and get notified of when I’ll be in a new city. However, you are much more likely to find me in your city if you bring me to it!

With advanced scheduling, I'm also passport-ready and available:

  • anywhere with train access in the tri-state area for bookings of 3 hours or more.
  • domestically (within the continental United States) for bookings of 6 hours or more.
  • some international locales.

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Will you dominate me?

In brief: no, I don’t offer services in which I play a stereotypically dominant role. The one exception to this is chastity keyholding when part of an established dynamic; I do love to please via tease!

A more nuanced answer: I am exclusively submissive but, make no mistake, my submission is far from meek. I’m more of a power princess than pillow princess, and I adore co-creating unique dynamics tailor-made to specific fantasies. This can take time and will surely feel intensely intimate (because it is), but the rewards are literally once-in-a-lifetime experiences that turn fantasies into realities in otherwise impossible ways.

My innate confidence, boisterous joy, and shamelessly eager sexuality makes me anything but a cookie cutter submissive partner. I’ll happily toy with you if you can give as good as you get, and I relish diving into psychological nuances of complex power play.

If you are simply looking for a one-on-one session with a traditional pro-domme to bottom to or receive specific sensations from, I can refer you to one of my very hot dominant partners.

Otherwise, consider that many kinds of play are enhanced by the presence of a fellow submissive like me. These include cuck sessions, co-bottoming, tandem bondage buddies, group play, or creative “sub4sub” vibes.

As part of a duo or group, I thoroughly enjoy contributing to your demise under the direction of a dominant to whom we are both submitting. Or maybe we are simply exploring as two submissives? Maybe we tie our wrists together, then tug and touch each other all over; let’s egg each other on in an endless game of truth or dare; we can amplify our kinks in unexpected ways! Perhaps we’ll even invite some friends to watch us—and, perhaps, to touch us. The more creative, the better!

Once you have successfully screened, I’m also happy to discuss and suggest more intricate details for unique encounters like these to help you fulfill fantasies you may not even know you have yet!

Duo Partners

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Spending quality time together one-on-one is lovely, but I'd be remiss not to introduce you to some of my stunning friends. So if you're looking for even more plug and play fun, I can coordinate threesomes (or moresomes) in a range of configurations with the extraordinary providers I list here. And please let me know if you'd like to see me with a provider who isn't listed. We could develop an expansion pack together….

Mylo Ryn

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Silly and sassy rollerblading adventurer. Tattooed and travel-sized companion. Sexually verse. Always dominant. As seen in porn tying and locking up cute subby trans girls.

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Big Bear

Top bear daddy giant

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Big, handsome Dom who loves to share my kinky fun and action with you. Kinky, flirty, affectionate, bi (top), giant of a man.

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Naomi Waits

Fun firecracker and fellow incorrigible slut

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Fun, suburban, tatooed firecracker with an artistic bent and DIY punk spirit. A playful and sophisticated playmate bringing the spark of chemistry everywhere she goes.

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